A parenting thought...

I really believe that you can't be offended by someone's comments if you are secure in your belief/decision. When someone says something to you that offends you, or if you read one of my posts or shares, don't get down on yourself. Every family is different. When you compare with other families you will either judge or feel bad until you are content with what YOU have.

If you think someone is judging you, especially if it is fact-based post, then consider where you are in your journey. We all have faults. We all make mistakes. We all have times of insecurity. We all have our vices. Do YOUR best and be honest with yourself and things should work out just fine :)

Peace!

Holiday traditions - keeping up the traditions, when all seems lost

Every family has traditions they grew up with that they either love or hate. Of course if we love them we try to pass them down, but if we're not so sure about them, we may not see the value in passing those down. However, we must consider that perhaps, some of the traditions we may not truly love, we may appreciate enough to carry on for our kids, just as our parents or grand parents did.

A big part of parenting is making decisions that are right for your family. For some reason your parents thought that a tradition was important enough to pass down: whether it is baking a dozen kinds of cookies, heading to the temple weekly, or giving foot rubs through Easter, if you remember them (and aren't entirely scarred!) consider taking some time to pass them down! Talk to the previous generation and ask the questions you didn't know when you were young - you never know what you may learn, and be able to pass on and teach your child. As technology becomes more of a common-place for our children, there is a likelihood that some of the "niceties" of family togetherness may be lost. Just as much as your family's traditions are there, talk to your spouse/significant other/baby's daddy/mommy and find out what traditions are there. It takes a village to raise a child, and sometimes it just takes generations of family to really mold a child's interest in their heritage.

Mom's Night Out is Being Me time!

Who doesn’t love a mommy’s night out? I know that most of my friends have the full time job as stay at home mom. As an attached parent I often feel pulled to make the switch, but honestly I am not sure that I am cut out to be a SAHM. I am very type-A and, most likely due to my upbringing, need to daily know my worth, and while my kids are GREAT, I’m not sure that I am at the point in my life where I could feel my worth entirely by the hugs and kisses of my kids.

Are there any other attached working moms out there who do their best to balance work, kids, and a relationship? How do you do it? For those who are at home, where do you get your daily gratitude?

I know I am blessed with a great network of attached friends. We can get together for a few hours sans-kids (though honestly we’ve often had more nurslings with us than not for many of our mommy’s nights!) and be adults again. I know many moms who have their get togethers and have a no-kids talk, but we don’t have rules. We just have friendships! New moms join us, some are regulars, but in the end, we get “me” time. Part of being “me” is that I have kids, so I love that I can be fully “me” and still get that time with friends. This post is for those friends out there who post a request for a mom’s night, just at that right time!