tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-952809830985954368.post4785782419952459816..comments2023-08-23T07:51:14.124-07:00Comments on Real Life Attachment Parenting: At what point is CIO abuse?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13679664732180140361noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-952809830985954368.post-3161528903004146212012-07-10T23:45:59.199-07:002012-07-10T23:45:59.199-07:00Hi- I think there are a lot of parents who hear &q...Hi- I think there are a lot of parents who hear "cry it out" and then decide to let their child "cry it out" and that's it. They don't understand the method. <br /><br />I have some understanding of the method, and I still couldn't do it.<br /><br />My daughter is 19 months old and just about a week ago we began "sleep training" (sleep learning) with a gentle sleep coach. She is doing beautifully with it- and it's been a huge relief to us. For gentle sleep coaching, you stay in the room with your child as they learn to go to sleep on their own. So there may be crying, but you are able to soothe them until they get used to it. My sleep coach is able to work with any family- breastfeeding and cosleeping is fine, too! There is a lot more to helping your child learn to sleep and get enough sleep than just self-soothing.<br /><br />However, my daughter is 19 months old and showed signs of being ready to sleep on her own. I think parents have to do what is best for their child in all cases and it will be different for each family. But I do think that for people who children who don't sleep, or don't sleep well, or don't nap, etc, etc, it is okay to research different sleep training methods and it is great to work with someone who knows what they're talking about. I know I couldn't have done it on my own!Stardusthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07117418082868035655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-952809830985954368.post-28574179647966393872011-06-03T16:57:29.494-07:002011-06-03T16:57:29.494-07:00Cry it out, modified cry it out, has been shown to...Cry it out, modified cry it out, has been shown to relate to failure to thrive because of the lack of respond to a child's needs. While each family needs to decide what works for them - this current plan is not NOT working for your family. Your baby is uncomfortable and cranky... you're sad and not comfortable with the idea.<br /><br />Babywise is probably the most controversial, but a very popular "program" for sleep training. Here are a few links http://www.ezzo.info/Aney/aneyaap.htm<br /><br />http://aapnews.aappublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/14/4/21<br /><br />A nice "recovery" letter from a former babywise mom<br />http://www.ezzo.info/Voices/failed.htm <br /><br />Nursing to sleep doesn't cause "issues" - if you feel less comfortable "standing up" to your husband, you might compromise and nurse to sleep in bed and then transition out of the nursing and place baby in her crib/bassinet once she's fully asleep so she's waking in her crib. I started out nursing until dozed off but not fully asleep and then putting her in her bassinet and patting her back until she was back to sleep. Now at almost 14 months, we nurse to sleep 95 percent of the time. She's happy 99 percent of the time, and it works so I am not changing it.<br /><br />Many cultures believe that children are 9 months in the womb and 9 months on momma. Your baby is not even half way there. There's nothing wrong with holding your baby.... your instincts are right!! :)<br /><br />The things we expect a baby to do, but wouldn't think of doing to an adult who CAN communicate their needs/desires to us... it really amazes me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13679664732180140361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-952809830985954368.post-419627230825854242009-10-13T08:23:47.974-07:002009-10-13T08:23:47.974-07:00Thanks for your response to my post. I do agree t...Thanks for your response to my post. I do agree that many parents just listen to others rather than their babies. They feel they are raising adults rather than guiding human beings.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13679664732180140361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-952809830985954368.post-12481720990396960292009-09-11T13:07:41.611-07:002009-09-11T13:07:41.611-07:00I totally agree that Cry It Out is abusive. Parent...I totally agree that Cry It Out is abusive. Parents have to stop and think about what FEELS right to them - and letting your baby (or toddler) cry it out for a long period is absolutely not right. We need to make our children feel safe! We need to make sure we are worthy of their trust. Thanks for your post. I wish every parent would read it.Lisa Maehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14477877718125636527noreply@blogger.com